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ABUSE VICTIM...How do you spell it?
ABUSE VICTIM..
How do you spell it?
This is how I spell it!
A = Attack
B = Barbaric
U = Uninvited
S = Surreal
E = Evil
V = Violated
I = Innocent
C = Crushed
T = Taken
I = Inconceivable
M = Mind-altering
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I am going to share a few unedited facts or rather thoughts that I am compelled to share. If you are looking for a positive upbeat article, then you had better walk away now. This article will not be the pleasantry that you might be expecting.
Why should I edit, even word my thoughts with any respect or standards, when I am addressing an abuser? This article is being written on behalf of every victim in this world.
My first thought goes out to those parents that marry someone other than your babies mommy/daddy!
Do you watch out for your child?
Do you make sure that the man that you have fallen in lust, love or just married for food and shelter is not raping your child?
Do you listen to your child when she screams out at night through nightmares of being hurt?
Do you even care?
If I sound malicious or angry with my thoughts, you are so correct. I am angry, I am mad as hell, I am even prepared to step out and challenge anyone that allows or ignores abuse.
How many of you readers out there have abused a child?
How many of you readers have lusted a child less than half your age?
How many of you readers have verbally abused your wife?
How many of you readers are right now tabbing another page with pornographic photos of young teens?
How many of you readers are screaming or hitting your child or spouse right now?
How many of you men are sitting in a stripper bar watching a female that could be your daughter or even your granddaughter?
How many of you readers are ignoring the fact that your child is on a computer all alone with a stranger?
How many of you readers are leaving your child alone with a strange babysitter?
How many of you readers are cutting your child down to the lowest level of humiliation?
How many of you readers have taken extreme control of your loved ones to the point that they are afraid to speak?
I am mad, angry, full of vile contempt because of the fact that after all these years and education and what is suppose to be a much more intelligent world with all of this new technology, that the world is even more in stress and abuse than ever.
Yes, sure we have always had pedophiles, abusers, mixed sex, body parts marketing, drug trafficking, religious & political wars, but damn....when does it stop?
When does the abuser realize that what he/she is doing to that child is totally WRONG and SICK!
When does the victim realize that it is not their fault?
When does the abuser finally get to live in a prison of pain, fear, loneliness, scars and hate?
When does the victim get to feel trust, and live a normal, healthy, free, life?
When does this all stop?
The more I get educated, the more I get mad! I do not feel smarter, I feel angrier and I feel embarrassed that I am even part of this human race.
Victims of abuse do not get to go to sleep at night and dream of sweet things...they dream of violation, fear, pain, mistrust, a never ending running away from an unknown perpetrator, they even continue to urinate in their pants.
Victims of abuse cannot enjoy a healthy sex life with their partners because the minute they feel they are finding that place of ecstasy, the face of an abuser invades their world and shatters what should be an intimacy between lovers.
Victims of abuse cannot deliver nor accept hugz of affection in the way they are meant to be.
Victims of abuse live a life of low self-esteem, zero self-acceptance, total self-blame, fear, confusion, and even self-hate.
Victims of abuse cannot have good memories, they cannot locate in their minds enough good memories to override their bad memories.
Victims of abuse never forget their abuser or the violation.
Victims of abuse remain a victim for many years of their lives if not their entire lives.
Do I hate, do I feel anger towards certain humans...you bet I do.
I want all of the victims in this world that read this to stand up and hate hard...get mad...scream loudly..rebel against the crime that stole your innocence.
DO NOT allow this abuse to control your life!
Do not allow the abuser that satisfaction.
Walk away from it...toss it as far as you can.
Never give it the time of day.
Treat it as you would the most nastiest creature, because that is what the abuse is..a nasty creature.
Stomp on it...kill it...CHOOSE to let it go!
Do the one thing that your abuser would and will hate.....Discard It.....park it.....store it in a box in the farthest place you can find......dig a hole in the ground and write his name on it and bury it.
YOU are the only one that can stop your internal abuse now>
For all of you abusers out there....DAMN YOU TO HELL....BURN !!!!
~D~
How do you spell it?
This is how I spell it!
A = Attack
B = Barbaric
U = Uninvited
S = Surreal
E = Evil
V = Violated
I = Innocent
C = Crushed
T = Taken
I = Inconceivable
M = Mind-altering
*************************************************************************************
I am going to share a few unedited facts or rather thoughts that I am compelled to share. If you are looking for a positive upbeat article, then you had better walk away now. This article will not be the pleasantry that you might be expecting.
Why should I edit, even word my thoughts with any respect or standards, when I am addressing an abuser? This article is being written on behalf of every victim in this world.
My first thought goes out to those parents that marry someone other than your babies mommy/daddy!
Do you watch out for your child?
Do you make sure that the man that you have fallen in lust, love or just married for food and shelter is not raping your child?
Do you listen to your child when she screams out at night through nightmares of being hurt?
Do you even care?
If I sound malicious or angry with my thoughts, you are so correct. I am angry, I am mad as hell, I am even prepared to step out and challenge anyone that allows or ignores abuse.
How many of you readers out there have abused a child?
How many of you readers have lusted a child less than half your age?
How many of you readers have verbally abused your wife?
How many of you readers are right now tabbing another page with pornographic photos of young teens?
How many of you readers are screaming or hitting your child or spouse right now?
How many of you men are sitting in a stripper bar watching a female that could be your daughter or even your granddaughter?
How many of you readers are ignoring the fact that your child is on a computer all alone with a stranger?
How many of you readers are leaving your child alone with a strange babysitter?
How many of you readers are cutting your child down to the lowest level of humiliation?
How many of you readers have taken extreme control of your loved ones to the point that they are afraid to speak?
I am mad, angry, full of vile contempt because of the fact that after all these years and education and what is suppose to be a much more intelligent world with all of this new technology, that the world is even more in stress and abuse than ever.
Yes, sure we have always had pedophiles, abusers, mixed sex, body parts marketing, drug trafficking, religious & political wars, but damn....when does it stop?
When does the abuser realize that what he/she is doing to that child is totally WRONG and SICK!
When does the victim realize that it is not their fault?
When does the abuser finally get to live in a prison of pain, fear, loneliness, scars and hate?
When does the victim get to feel trust, and live a normal, healthy, free, life?
When does this all stop?
The more I get educated, the more I get mad! I do not feel smarter, I feel angrier and I feel embarrassed that I am even part of this human race.
Victims of abuse do not get to go to sleep at night and dream of sweet things...they dream of violation, fear, pain, mistrust, a never ending running away from an unknown perpetrator, they even continue to urinate in their pants.
Victims of abuse cannot enjoy a healthy sex life with their partners because the minute they feel they are finding that place of ecstasy, the face of an abuser invades their world and shatters what should be an intimacy between lovers.
Victims of abuse cannot deliver nor accept hugz of affection in the way they are meant to be.
Victims of abuse live a life of low self-esteem, zero self-acceptance, total self-blame, fear, confusion, and even self-hate.
Victims of abuse cannot have good memories, they cannot locate in their minds enough good memories to override their bad memories.
Victims of abuse never forget their abuser or the violation.
Victims of abuse remain a victim for many years of their lives if not their entire lives.
Do I hate, do I feel anger towards certain humans...you bet I do.
I want all of the victims in this world that read this to stand up and hate hard...get mad...scream loudly..rebel against the crime that stole your innocence.
DO NOT allow this abuse to control your life!
Do not allow the abuser that satisfaction.
Walk away from it...toss it as far as you can.
Never give it the time of day.
Treat it as you would the most nastiest creature, because that is what the abuse is..a nasty creature.
Stomp on it...kill it...CHOOSE to let it go!
Do the one thing that your abuser would and will hate.....Discard It.....park it.....store it in a box in the farthest place you can find......dig a hole in the ground and write his name on it and bury it.
YOU are the only one that can stop your internal abuse now>
For all of you abusers out there....DAMN YOU TO HELL....BURN !!!!
~D~
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Comment by DorothyL on September 20, 2008 at 7:54pm -
Huggz Melanie
Your strength will take you to places that your fears would never.
You were a victim and your mother for her own reasons chose denial. Her reasons for not supporting you may never surface...but realize she herself had to be living in a very surreal world.
Abusers will always act as if they did no wrong. For them to bow down and ask forgiveness would mean they have a conscience.....abusers do not have a conscience.
That is what separates them from genuine men.
Why do victims fall prey to yet another abuser....two things....one, the abuser looks for you..he knows who you are and he knows that you are desperate to find the perfect match, so he sets you up.....two, you feel an acceptance and a certain amount of predictability with that type of person...it is a pattern set deep inside of you when the one rusted person in your life took away your innocence and planted massive confusion.
I welcome your story in my Real Life Abuse section on my website.
To write it all out is also a very cathartic way to simply dump trash. One needs to empty clutter from their mind in order to have space to organize and sort!
Onward & Upward!
Huggzzzz ~D~
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