by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
When the family wants the patient sick, treatment and recovery are impossible. This is the way it usually appears for all practical purposes. Family members’ defenses protect interpersonal and intergenerational dysfunction...unless the patient is internally inspired and externally supported to break the cycle.
As clinicians we know the patient’s resistance is an integral part of the psychotherapeutic change process. And in the context of therapy we learn to work with…
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on November 12, 2009 at 8:24am —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
People say once a victim, always a victim. I beg to differ.
Over the years I have been watching men and women grow to become self-sufficient, self-respecting people who have no tolerance for being abused any more. These people have completely healed from domestic abuse.
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on October 29, 2009 at 8:05am —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
A survivor asks, “Once your abusive partner has used the legal system for further abuse, and final papers are filed with you having to see a psychologist of his choosing, what do you do? How do you turn the case around? He continues to threaten to take the children away.”
When you are in this situation, it feels like something went “wrong.” You ask yourself, “How is it that I’m the victim/survivor and I’m having to defend myself and prove my mental/emotional stability…
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on October 5, 2009 at 6:02am —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Some people think that emotional abuse is vague. They say it’s hard to define, hard to identify and simply can’t be seen. Not so!
Emotional abuse is as clear as your feelings when they are felt. It’s the smothering of or dismantling of your inner well-being, your self-inspired passions, your inner knowing of what is true for you.
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on September 25, 2009 at 10:25am —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
I hear people say, “My partner is controlling and he puts me down.” Then they add, “It is abusive, but it’s only verbal.”
The question I have is, how do you feel about that? How does it make you feel when spoken to as he/she does? And how do feel about yourself in relation to your partner?
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on September 4, 2009 at 8:07am —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
If you are leaving a batterer and find yourself in family court, you may be asking yourself this question:
How do I hold it together when everything is falling apart?
Whether you initiated your divorce proceedings or not, you wonder how can things be getting worse when you expected remedy for the abuse you have endured.
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on August 21, 2009 at 6:18am —
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Battered women and uninformed bystanders frequently say that the system doesn’t work. While it may not be perfect, it most certainly works. The real problem is most people don’t know how to work the system.
Here are a few things you will want to do as you navigate the system.... To read, this article, please visit:
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on August 9, 2009 at 12:00pm —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Battered women, who are victims of spousal legal abuse, tell me, “The courts and attorneys don’t get it!” These women truly believe that the court agents don’t understand domestic abuse. But the fact is the divorce lawyers and family court agents do understand. They most definitely get it!
The one who doesn’t get it is the battered woman. I certainly understand how that is and why they don’t get it. Read on because the sooner you get it, the sooner you will help yours…
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on July 20, 2009 at 10:07am —
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By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
I often hear domestic violence survivors complain that the counselor they are seeing with their partner has sided with him/her. These victims expected to seek therapeutic remedy for the dysfunction that they live, and they discover they have gained another “enemy.”
Here are some things you will want to know if you are going to a therapist with your partner for domestic abuse.
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on June 20, 2009 at 12:32pm —
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As a psychologist, domestic abuse consultant and one who has known domestic violence personally, I’m frequently approached by battered women for “psychological truth.” They are eager to know if the names and labels given to them by their abusive partners, or by the court agents acting on their abuser’s behalf, hold any validity.
Many domestic violence survivors intuitively know they are falsely labeled, but remain at an impasse as to how they can refute such allegations. That is, how they can c…
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on June 2, 2009 at 6:45pm —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
We know it happens; yet when we see it, we’re in shock. And when we experience it, we’re numb. How can a family member, who once claimed to cherish you, plot to back you into a fabricated psychiatric label and sentence of craziness?
That is the question that dumbfounds anyone who walks in these shoes. Sadly, most victims of “crazy-making” don’t realize they are walking this path until the psychiatric doors are locked…until the psychotropic drugs are administered…until…
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on May 26, 2009 at 6:00pm —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
So many of our readers are struggling with the same issue: “Why does he/she tell me, I’m crazy?”
To help you sort through all of the crazy making inherent in living in and getting out of an abusive relationship, we have compiled this collection of insights and information.
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on May 5, 2009 at 9:12pm —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
If I tell you that you are “crazy” and threaten to punish you because of what I have said, a part of you begins to question that maybe what I have alleged is true.
Crazy-Making from the Outside In
Then, if I tell someone in authority that you are “crazy” and consequently they set forth to create restrictions around your personal and civil liberties, then more of you questions...is this true?
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on April 24, 2009 at 10:07am —
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By Dr. Jeanne king, Ph.D.
We hear a lot about the “he said, she said” when it comes to relationship violence. The challenge for advocates and interventionists is to accurately ascertain, not only “who did what” but even more revealing, what are the underlying dynamics inspiring the altercations between the parties?
There are some clear distinctions between classic
“classic intimate partner violence” and
“interactional relationship violence.”
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on April 9, 2009 at 6:19am —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Why do domestic abuse victims see the abuse dynamic in their home, but fail to recognize it in their divorce proceedings?
The answer to this question is the same answer to the question, “Why doesn’t she awaken to the abuse in her home?” You know the answer:
she is part of the very dynamic for which she seeks remedy.
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on March 20, 2009 at 5:30am —
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How do you know if this is emotional abuse? How do you know if you are being abused emotionally? You know from the inside out.
Look closely at these three tell-tale signs of emotional abuse and let your awareness of your inner experience, relative to each, permeate your entire being.
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Signs of Emotional Abuse - 3 Tell Tale Signs of Emotional Abuse
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on March 10, 2009 at 6:58am —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Lack of emotional safety is the number one indicator of a potentially dangerous relationship. It may seem subtle, yet it is ever so significant with respect to your well-being.
When you have emotional safety, it’s palatable. You can feel it in every fiber of your being. When it’s missing, you may feel its loss. Or, you may simply know of it not being there by the presence of these five glaring signs.
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on February 23, 2009 at 2:41pm —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
We’ve all heard it happens and if you’ve ever been in an abusive relationship you know those promises like the back of your hand.
They seem so sweet in the first handful of rounds living
in an abusive relationship. And all that happens in the relationship immediately after feels just the same...real sweet. HONEYmoon sweet.
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on February 9, 2009 at 11:00am —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
If you've read my writing you know I'm a proponent of leaving an abusive relationship quickly and quietly, when you decide to do so.
Now that doesn't mean you jump into the car and go "out of the blue." No not at all. Because if you do, chances are you'll be back home before you know it.
Instead, what I actually mean is your final exit is quickly and quietly, but the planning of your departure is well-thought out and completely planned to the tee. ALL of your ducks a…
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on February 2, 2009 at 5:25am —
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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
If you've read my writing, you know I'm a proponent of leaving an abusive relationship quickly and quietly when you decide to do so.
Now that doesn't mean you jump into the car and go "out of the blue." No not at all. Because if you do, chances are you'll be back home before you know it.
Instead, what I actually mean is your final exit is quickly and quietly, but the planning of your departure is well-thought out and completely planned to the tee. ALL of your ducks a…
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Added by Dr. Jeanne King on February 2, 2009 at 5:00am —
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